Everyone loves to have a great personality and fantastic self- esteem, but no one knows where to get ‘it’. There is no magic pill to a better self-image. Taking a few deliberate actions can help you build your self- esteem.
I have seen the effects of low self-esteem on people and it is not a pretty picture.
So how do you improve it?
Simple Answer: Recondition your mind to look at the good internal images and stay away from your ‘bad’ internal images. So every time you peek inside, you only see the bright and happy self.
It is that simple!
How to do I do that? Here are a few tried and tested techniques to improve your self-esteem.
Visualise yourself brimming with confidence. Visualising the desired outcome is one of the most effective ways of building self-esteem. All top athletes visualise their success wel before they succeed in the real world.
Spend a few minutes daily visualising yourself as a successful man/woman. Get into the nitty-gritty details about what you are wearing, where you are and what you see around you. Do this once or twice daily.
Identify and Build on your Strengths
If you have a hobby or a sport you enjoy, relish the moments you spend in that sport. Sitting on your couch and watching TV is not a hobby. You need to do something physical. Relish and savour the moments you enjoy this activity. The more you enjoy yourself, the better. Notice how good you feel about yourself. The more you notice, the better you feel.
Watch your self-talk.
Self-talk is the chatter happens inside your mind. Self-talk might start when you are deciding or when your brain is distracted. Some people engage in self-talk after taking a decision.
First, realize what you say to yourself. Unsurprisingly, most people beat themselves up in that chat.
If you are not nice to yourself why will anyone else be?
Notice how you speak to yourself and if it is negative, stop dead on your track and willfully change that thought. It will be hard in the beginning. It will take time and effort but yields the best results.
Instead of telling yourself “screwed up in last test,”, change it to ” could have done better on test, and here is how….”
And here is the thing… it doesn’t matter what you put after the “here is how…”. Instead of ending the conversation on a negative note, you are redirecting your brain to search for ways to improve.
One last thing.
You don’t need a hundred techniques to get good at this. Learn a few and master them. Do not waste time in analysing. Get started today and keep using one technique every day and notice how much you change over time.